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Who Do You Think You Are? Designing for who you want to be.

 

"If you see yourself becoming a world class surfer, this bedroom can help get you there." (Casa De La Camino Hotel, CA)

“If you see yourself becoming a world class surfer, this bedroom can help get you there.” (Casa De La Camino Hotel, CA)

When designing a client’s home, or my own, I always consider this question: Who do you think you are? To me, a home is the next layer of ourselves. If we have a vision of who we want to be in the world, one powerful way to move in that direction is to design our environment to reflect that person. In my experience, and that of many clients, when our home looks and feels in alignment with who we want to be, it creates a transformation:

  • The space reflects a different perspective of our self…
  •  which leads to new thoughts…
  • which leads to different choices…
  • which leads to new opportunities…
  • which leads to meeting different people…
  • and  then to new accomplishments…
  • and over time, it looks like a new life,
  •  consistent with who you think you are!

So how do we do this?

"World Traveler? This room feels like an exotic oasis."

“World Traveler? This room feels like an exotic oasis.” (by Carson Poetzi Architects)

Step 1: Answer the question: Who do you think you are? What is your ideal vision of yourself?  Some specifics are important here. You can list out what you do for a living, how you look, how you dress, how much money you have, the relationship you’re in, the friends you have, etc. Sometimes it is easier to see this “ideal you” as a separate character, and that is fine if it helps you get out of your old ways of viewing yourself.

"Who sleeps in this bed? If it matches your vision, then it could be you."

“Who sleeps in this bed? If it matches your vision, then it could be you.” (by Plural Design)

Step 2: Answer the question: What kind of home would that person live in? Here too, specifics are important. What does the bedroom of the “ideal you” look like? Are your walls brightly colored, or all white? Start to list details of your space from this perspective, noting the big and little things that feel good as you think of them.  Don’t put a limit on anything based on perceived cost or logistics, just dream a little. You are creating a vision for your home.

"I love the strong, powerful personality of this room." (by Acer Goods and Services Design)

“I love how this room has such a strong and powerful personality.” (by Acer Goods and Services Design)

Step 3: Answer the question: How does my current space compare to my ideal space?

Now look around each room and see how it compares to your answers from Step 2. This is not intended to create negative feelings as you see what you don’t yet have, but rather to see the contrast between the current reality and your future. Often, you will have inspirited ideas of how you can start to shift things towards your ideal space.

"This room is so glamourous that you can almost imagine the person who lives here." (by Kimberly Seledon Design Group)

“This room has such a glamour that you can almost imagine the person who lives here.” (by Kimberly Seledon Design Group)

Step 4: Start with small changes right away, rather than waiting to do a big makeover “someday.” I’ve worked  with many wealthy clients, and even when money is not an issue, most of them cannot do everything they want to do right away. We all have limitations and priorities that require us to do things as we can, over time. The most important thing is to start taking actions that are in alignment with “who you think you are” today. What happens when we do this is, we start to see the shift of our surroundings towards that of our ideal view of our self, and that starts to attract all the changes I mentioned before (we get new ideas, we make new choices, we meet new people,  we have new opportunities, and so on).  Believe it or not, will make the rest of our home design happen more quickly and smoothly. For example, I have been slowly renovating my home over the past two years, and it is still not complete. But as I am able to make changes, I deliberately  select items that match “who I think I am”. What has happened for me over the past two years proves this point:  I feel better in my space…which has confirmed my belief in my work…which has increased my business… which has created more abundance…and which is making it possible for me to do more renovations.

"I'm not sure who this person think they are, but I bet they are fun to be with."

“I’m not sure who this person thinks they are, but I bet they are fun to be with.”

Step 5: Know that you,  and your space, are a work in progress. And enjoy each little step in the right direction.

Easier said than done, I know. But when we don’t blame our home, or ourselves,  for being less than perfect, we give our space and ourselves room to grow. As I sit at my dining table writing this, I have a vision for this room that I have not yet  been able to create. But because I know exactly what I want it to look and feel like (based on “who I think I am”)  I’m confident that it will happen. In the meantime, I’ve done what I can to move in that direction. My recent purchase of new dishes, place mats  and candle sticks are all in alignment with what I know the room will one day look like. They are small changes, but they make me happy every time I look at them. And that creates momentum towards my goal.

"The bold mix of colors and patterns is a sign of a person who knows exactly who they are and what they like." (by Griffin and Crane General Contractors)

“The bold mix of colors and patterns is a sign of a person who knows exactly who they are and what they like.” (by Griffin and Crane General Contractors)

This is the essence of “more than just a pretty space” and is what inspires me in my design work every day. Who do you think you are? And how does your home support you in that vision? Please share your thoughts and pictures.

1 comment

1 Julie { 06.26.14 at 12:26 am }

I like your “transformation list”. Very inspiring! Sort of a micro take on “be the change you want to see in the world”.

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